I’m curious. Have you ever paid close attention to the inner voice of fear?
Have you monitored it?
Have you tracked its predictions of failure, doom, and personal catastrophe?
If so, how many times did it get those predictions wrong?
Because I’ve been keeping tabs for years and it’s wrong a LOT.
LIke 90% of the time.
And I’m guessing yours is too.
But have you actually held it accountable for that? Or do you just breathe a sigh of relief and keep going as if nothing happened?
For most of us, that’s exactly what we do. Even though we’d never do that with a real-life advisor. Can you imagine actually listening to your doctor if she got it WRONG EVERY TIME?
You’ve got cancer!
You’ve only got 3 more weeks to live!
Your heart could give out any minute!
When the error was exposed, would you just wipe your brow and say “Whew! thank goodness you’re so terrible at your job.”
Would you even pretend this was okay?
No. I think you’d have that doctor's license pulled so no one else could be harmed.
And yet, most of us allow fear to take charge.
We listen to it as if it’s factual report, as if it’s the voice of authority, as if it’sGod.
You’re going to lose your job.
You’re going to lose your spouse.
You’re going to lose your home.
And sure, all these things could happen. We're on a hero's journey after all—here to face (and learn from) the difficulties and challenges of life.
But have you noticed when things get hard, there's always some sort of guidance, a next logical step, an unexpected pair of helping hands?
This is what fear always leaves out.
It takes everything to the extreme, ignoring other possibilities in the process. It doesn’t give you any credit for being resourceful, creative, or flexible enough to pivot in a brand new direction.
It's convinced you’ll lose your job and never get another one.
It's certain you'll lose your spouse and never feel love or joy again.
It thinks you're ALONE and POWERLESS because it holds a memory of a time when you were.
Many years ago, when my marriage suddenly ended, I felt like a toddler being tossed overboard, left to drown in dark waters.
I wasn't working at the time. I had no income. I didn't even know how to put gas in my car. I had become so dependent on my husband, I'd regressed into a state of learned helplessness.
Fear told me my life was over—that I'd never find a job or be able to take care of myself.
But another voice, a quiet voice, told me everything was going to be okay.
I applied for a job and the woman who owned the company hired me on the spot.
Someone at a gas station showed me how to put windshield wiper fluid (and gas) in my car.
A married couple rented their basement suite to me while I figured things out.
I took one shaky step after another and was continually met by the kindness of strangers.
And I’m not the only person on the planet who's experienced this.
You may feel alone—you may actually BE alone—but if you honestly open your heart to it, there's an entire orchestration around you.
Even if you don't have family or friends to turn to, there are dozens of strangers involved in the daily renewal of your life.
That barista who made your coffee with such care is part of your invisible network.
Each human interaction (even if it's negative) has the potential to lead to something good—whether it's personal development, inner growth, or an important insight.
We’re part of a greater village, love!
Which means all those times you gave someone directions, or lifted down their luggage, or gave a generous tip, you were playing your part in the oneness of things.
And you can bet the organizing intelligence will inspire others to do the same for you.
Don't let fear tell you otherwise.
If it does, PRESS PAUSE.
Take a moment to review its track record.
Then hold that voice accountable!
Because you deserve a better advisor—the deeper wisdom that's here for all of us.
Sending you so much love,
P.S. Have you noticed the kind of ideas you get when you're in fight or flight? They're desperate, frenzied and full of urgency.
Instead of allowing fear to inform your decisions and control your behaviour, I'd like you to consider working with me instead.
I teach my clients a kinder, gentler way to work with their anxiety and fear so they can meet the challenges of life in an empowered, conscious way. CLICK HERE to learn how to work with me privately.
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