"No matter what condition your life is in, healthy boundaries will improve it."
This isn't a sales pitch.
It's a testimony of my own experience.
Like most people, I assumed boundaries were all about saying NO and standing up for myself.
I didn't realize that there were other types of boundaries—the kind you create on the inside—and this gap in my education cost me dearly.
IS IT COSTING YOU TOO?
SEE IF ANYTHING ON THIS LIST RINGS TRUE
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you're confused about what your responsibilities are and end up over-extending yourself
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you swallow feelings of anger and resentment in order to keep the peace
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you eat to relieve feelings of overwhelm and anxiety
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you have a hard time saying no without feeling guilty
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you're often sick and suspect that it's your body's way of giving you a legitimate excuse to get out doing something you truly don’t want to do
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you feel burned out
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you find it agonizing to tell others how you really feel or what you really want
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people often take advantage of you because you're so . . . nice
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you try to be kind, but find yourself suddenly exploding, shocking everyone around you
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you only feel okay with yourself if you're making others happy
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you often feel controlled by your to-do list
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you're filled with self-doubt and find yourself turning to others for their opinions and advice because you really don't trust yourself
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you have a hard time setting limits with things like spending, drinking or eating
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people don't seem to hear your no
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you worry a lot and often feel a great deal of anxiety
OR IS IT THE OTHER WAY AROUND?
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you have a hard time taking no for an answer
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you're afraid of losing people, so you try to control them
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you feel possessive of your loved ones, and feel jealous if they get too close to others
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you speak and act for the people closest to you
"We’re going now"
"You’re not wearing that"
"You’ve had enough"
"You won’t like that" -
you only feel safe if you're the one calling the shots
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you believe your way is the right way
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you assume you know what's best for the ones you're closest to
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you have difficulty allowing your children to make their own choices about their lives
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you feel rejected if people don't take your advice and pressure them into doing it your way
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deep down, you're terrified of being alone
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you use anger or drama to get your way or to keep people close to you
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you plan for others without including them or caring about their preferences
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you withdraw love and affection from those you care about as a form of punishment for not doing what you want
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ESPECIALLY IF YOU CHECKED
OFF A LOT OF BOXES!
I THINK YOU'LL LIKE IT BECAUSE . . .
If you found yourself in both categories, that's perfectly normal. Most of us were raised in families who were caught up in a dysfunctional game of control and compliance—and as a result, we learned unhealthy ways of interacting with ourselves and others.
I want to change this!
Creating The Container of You is an informational eCourse that will help you understand boundaries and develop an authentic relationship with yourself so you won't need to rely on unhealthy defences and strategies to get your needs met.
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It cuts through the confusion of boundary definitions by breaking them down into categories (and types) so you can better understand what they are.
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It will help you recognize and release poor boundary habits developed in childhood.
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It's self-paced and evergreen. Once you enrol, you'll have immediate access to the course material and it's yours as long as the platform (Thinkific exists.
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It's contemplative, rather than regimented.
WHICH MEANS
No required homework.
No deadlines.
No pressure.
Just encouragement to start practicing what you learn by taking small turtle steps that feel good to you.
YOU GET TO DO THIS YOUR WAY
If you want, you can binge (Netflix style) and finish this course in a day.
(Although it would take a good eight to ten hours and you'd probably forget most of it by morning.)
You could take your time, going module by module in a deeper, more explorative way.
Or, you might decide to read the whole thing all at once so you can get a feel for the material, before going back to the lessons that spoke to you the most.
It's all up to you.
I created this course to raise awareness and provide meaningful information about the different types of boundaries so you can use them to improve every aspect of your life.
Once it's yours, you get to decide how to approach it.
HERE'S WHAT YOU'LL GET
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Online Access to 9 Modules Containing a Combined Total of 21 Lessons (plus a bonus!)
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Downloadable PDF Help-sheets & Support Material
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Personal Videos from Me to Support Your Learning
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An Audio Recording that will lead you through a grounding exercise and help you set up an Energetic Boundary
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Personal Examples From My Own Life
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Tips From My Teachers and Boundary Mentors
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Techniques, Tools, & Scripts to Get You Started
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A Resource Section Filled With Links to Books, Articles, Blogs, & Videos
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Access to a Private Facebook Group where I post videos and answer questions in response to group interaction.
HERE'S WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
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How to set healthy emotional boundaries.
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so you can contain your feelings without repressing them
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so you can manage and express your emotions in an appropriate way
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so you can create more intimacy and closeness in your life
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so you can practice empathy without burn-out
How to set healthy energetic boundaries.
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so you can establish a sense of security and trust
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so you can unplug from the negative energy of others
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so you can protect your energy levels and overall health
How to set healthy mental boundaries.
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so you can stay in your own business
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so you can manage fear and worry
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so you can monitor your inner dialogue
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so you can protect your inner peace
YOU'LL ALSO LEARN . . .
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What healthy boundaries are (and aren't)
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Why you can't have intimacy without healthy boundaries
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How to set kind boundaries with others
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How to set limits without guilt and shame
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How to communicate your needs respectfully and effectively
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How to deal with difficult people
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What grounding really is and why it's so important
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Why non-verbal communication can speak louder than words
AND HERE'S HOW YOU'LL BENEFIT
Boundaries help you develop an authentic sense of worth while also helping you communicate that worth to others in a healthy way. The benefits of this spill over into every area of your life.
WHICH MEANS
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more ease and intimacy in your close relationships
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personal resilience & improved health
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more time and energy (and money!) for the things you care about
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healthier professional relationships
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less overwhelm & worry
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greater self-awareness
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a deeper connection to your own personal values
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an authentic sense of self-trust
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less overwhelm
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greater clarity
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less self-doubt & more confidence
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increased psychological flexibility and greater freedom
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an ability to foster trust and security for yourself and others
+ there's a bonus!
Learning about outer AND inner Boundaries will help you grow into a strong, emotionally healthy adult who can show up authentically for yourself and others. And you won't have to leave your light-hearted, fun-loving self behind in the process.
This Is The Course They Never Taught You In School! And what
you'll learn about guilt is worth double the price of admission!
I HOPE YOU'LL TAKE THE JOURNEY WITH ME
If you don't know me already, I'm Kelli the Consciousness Coach.
I know how essential internal boundaries are for emotional, mental, and spiritual wellbeing—and I love helping people develop the inner structures that will enable them to shine their light into the world in an authentic, powerful way.
Why?
Because I used to be both a People Pleaser and a Control Freak. I spent over a decade learning about healthy boundaries and worked hard to develop an inner core of self-confidence and worth.
So I know from personal experience how important boundary education (and development) is! It's the reason I no longer rely on the approval of others to feel worthy of love.
You can read more about my coaching style HERE